To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself Heaven. Don't wait until you die, if you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now.
As Valentine's Day approaches each year it seems to be a time when women take a long hard look at themselves and ask themself if they are really lovable. Whether they are in a romantic relationship or not doesn't matter, the event of Valentine's Day makes women have self doubt. This article will discuss ways to turn your self-doubt into self-love and inner strength. Self-Love practices for Valentine's Day are about learning to see yourself differently so that you don't need approval from anyone outside of yourself. What if all women stopped being influenced by social suggestion and instead they began to focus on the most important relationship they have currently and will have guaranteed for the rest of their lives - the relationship with themself.
The social pressure to be a perfect partner is present strongly during the first part of February each year as Valentine's Day approaches. This feeling is an illusion of our culture and has absolutely nothing to do with anyone's true reality, but for those who get stuck in the thought process it is as real and as painful as it gets. Ask yourself if you feel this same way about yourself and your relationship in September as you do right now. Most women will say no, that it doesn't effect them the same way at other times of the year.
At other times of the year we do not have a constant barrage of advertising showing you how you are supposed to be romanced and how you are supposed to be romancing the significant other in your life. And for pity sake, what if you don't have a significant other. You are ruined, you will never have another change - right? OF COURSE NOT! None of that is correct, or even close to reality.
What if all women stopped being influenced by advertising suggestion and instead they began to focus on the most important relationship they have currently and will have guaranteed for the rest of their lives - the relationship with themself. By putting yourself in the position of the one who you care about, the one who you are dressing up for, the one who you wear the special perfume for.
What would happen? Women would be stronger, more confident, they would not be vulnerable and as easily influenced. This is not a thing about women, it is a thing about being a human-being who cares for and about yourself first. By caring about yourself first you will see others differently, your unconditional love will spill out to include everything, which will make your life more pleasant and peaceful then you have ever imagined. This does not make a women headstrong, or arrogant, quite the opposite. It makes her feel like she matters, and her value is important, it gives her a feeling of worth that no one can take away.
Here at My Loving Self you will learn how to see yourself as strong, independant and worthy of unconditional love.
The article that follows was written by Melody Pourmoradi and appeared in Huffington Post on February 2, 2016. To go to that article click here.
9 Ways to Practice Self Love This Valentine's Day
by Melody Pourmoradi
Valentine's Day often comes with a lot of pressure and expectation about what the day should look like, whether or not you are in a romantic relationship. We have been conditioned to look outside of ourselves for all of the really important things in life, particularly, pure unconditional love. My belief is that until we become our own steady source of love, we will end up in the wrong relationships, constantly looking to someone else to give us all of the things that we have not yet been able to give to ourselves.
In preparation of this Valentine's Day, consider putting your energy into the relationship that you have with yourself, without giving into the false need to rely on any outer circumstance or person to dictate and determine the course of your day. Gift yourself with all of the things that you wish to receive or experience on this or any day. It's magical how when we start valuing ourselves fully, the people in our lives naturally start to show up in a different way by also recognizing our worth. Allow yourself to bask in the beautiful brilliance that is you and to treat yourself to all of the greatness that you long for and deserve. Try out one or all of these ideas and see which ones resonate with you.
Have willingness - Commit to changing up the way you have moved through your relationships in the past. Challenge what hasn't worked so far and actively commit to understanding who you need to be to love yourself fully and to attract a partner who can also love you for your authentic self.
Forgive yourself - Excuse yourself for all the times that you may have lost a significant piece of yourself to find another. Deeply forgiving past mistakes and misjudgments in your past relationships will help you cultivate an open heart that is ready for new experiences.
Tune in -Take time to check in with yourself and to connect to whatever it is that you need to be, feel or do in that moment. This will set the tone for your day and activate a presence of love that you can carry with you always.
Create a positive mantra - We all have a ongoing internal script that we sometimes aren't even aware of. Become mindful of your inner voice and guide it to choose loving messages whenever the negativity starts to creep in. Some empowering mantras are: "I love and accept myself always" or "Self love is my birthright" or "I am valuable."
Eat well - Being selective about what food you choose to nourish your body with, is one of the most important forms of self love. Know how your food choices affect you and select the ones that create the highest form of energy, comfort and delight in your body.
Surround yourself with beauty - Our outer environment has great influence over our internal condition. Create a space for yourself that lights you up and fills you up. Fresh flowers, soft music or an organized home base can all be very helpful in creating a high vibe living area.
Write yourself a love note - Take some time to write down all of the things that you admire about yourself. Release the urge to point out your flaws. Your self doubt muscle may be stronger than your self love muscle at the moment, but focusing on your strengths and your gifts will fuel your mission to create more appreciation and gratitude for yourself.
Take _yourself out on a date - Get dressed up and take yourself out on an outing for one. You get to choose the venue, the vibe and the details so indulge in an activity that is good for your soul and will bring you the highest amount of joy.
Spoil yourself - Always remember to indulge in things that create passion and excitement in your life. These are the things that fuel you to consistently function at your best and flood you with good energy. Whether it is a great book or a walk in nature, be sure to set this valuable time aside for yourself.
Never underestimate the power and value in nurturing the relationship that you have with yourself. Self love breeds confidence, success and joy within you. With it comes the great power to breath light into every corner of your life and is the key to creating healthy and lasting relationships with others. Write yourself that beautiful love note, buy yourself that piece of art that moves you and honor the time you have set aside to honor, love and care for the priceless perfection that is you
This article appeared in Huffington Post on February 2, 2016 to go to that article click here.
The author of all blog posts on this page is Wendy Mae, Ph.D.
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